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KPC Family and individual resources:
Therapeutic Resources and Tools:
Grief support for families who have lost a child:
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Dr. Axe www.draxe.com
My go to resource for functional medicine. Wonderful resources and recommendations.
We all need help and resources for ourselves and our loved ones. Here are some beneficial links. Please contact my office if you need additional help or are seeking counseling. jessiclc@gmail.com Pr. Jessica Furino
The following links are listed to provide you with additional online mental health care information and counseling resources.
Addiction and Recovery
Alcoholic's Anonymous
Center for On-Line Addiction
SAMHSA's Substance Abuse/Addiction
SAMHSA's Treatment and Recovery
Web of Addictions
Anxiety Disorders
Answers to Your Questions About Panic Disorder
National Center for PTSD
Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), Mayo Clinic
International OCD Foundation
Calm Clinic
Associations & Institutes
American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry
American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
American Counseling Association
American Psychiatric Association
American Psychological Association
Association for Psychological Science
Canadian Mental Health Association
Center for Mental Health Resources
National Institute of Mental Health
Mental Health America
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration
Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder
ADDA - Attention Deficit Disorder Association
Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, NIMH
Child Abuse and Domestic Violence
Childhelp USA®
Questions and Answers about Memories of Childhood Abuse
SAMHSA's (Women,) Children and Families
SAMHSA's Protection and Advocacy
The National Domestic Violence Hotline Website
Chronic Fatigue
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
Domestic Abuse Intervention and Prevention:
https://www.whengeorgiasmiled.org/aspire-curriculum/
This site and foundation is run by Robin McGraw. It provides apps for safety and protection as well as a wealth or resources and referrals.
Depression
Bipolar Disorder News - Pendulum.org
Depression and How Therapy Can Help
Depression Screening
Depression Test, Symptoms of Depression, Signs of Depression
Developmental Disorders
Asperger's Disorder
NeuroWeb
Yale Autism Program
Diagnosis
DSM-IV-TR: Diagnoses and Criteria
Dissociation and Traumatic Stress
Sidran Traumatic Stress Institute
Eating Disorders
Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics
Journals & Magazines
ADHD Report
Anxiety, Stress and Coping
Autism
Childhood
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Dementia
Depression and Anxiety
Drug and Alcohol Review
Dyslexia
Early Child Development and Care
IEP and Learning resources:
I Love this site!!! Information, articles, resources, templates, sample letters, protective rights and laws...you name it, this site is an amazing resource for parents, teachers and administrators to help each navigate and assist their children in getting the assessments they need to set up a program that provides accommodations and modifications needed to provide children with the tools to do well in school.
Eating Disorders
Educational Assessment
Grief Counseling article by Imagine. www.imaginenj.org
Imagine is a non profit grief counseling and education center that helps families and individuals of all ages cope and heal from their losses. They are located in Westfield, N.J. If you can support them or help someone you know who needs support in this area, please have them reach out to imaginenj.org
Journal of Gambling Studies
Journal of Happiness Studies
Journal of Mental Health and Aging
Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy
Journal of Sport and Exercise Psychology
Journal of Substance Abuse Treatment
Language and Cognitive Processes
Loss, Grief & Care
Mental Retardation and Developmental Disabilities
Metaphor and Symbol
Neuropsychological Rehabilitation
Parenting
Personal Relationships
Personality and Individual Differences
Psychiatric Bulletin
Psychology Today
Stress and Health
Substance Abuse
Service and Care Links: Online resource for coordinating care for others.
Mealtrain
Mealtrain.com allows you to organize meals for individuals in your community. Mealtain plus goes one step farther by providing you with the tools to organize overall needed care; rides, child care, grovceries, etc..These are wonderful and easy tools to help us take care of our loved ones.
Timebanks.org is a new organization that allows individuals to donate their services in their community in exchange for reciprocal services. For example, one participant drove other members to medical appointments for 20 hours and was able to exchange their 20 hours by having someone paint their home. What a wonderful way to provide services and network, tax free in your community.
Caring Contact for Crisis and Suicide Intervention and Prevention
24 Hour Crisis Hotline www.caringcontact.org 908.232.2880
Suicide Risk Factors and Warning Signs:
ACT How to help and intervene.
Grief
www.justserve.org A service coordinating site which promotes and supports non-profit organizations.
Trauma, Violence & Abuse
Medical Dictionary
Medications, FDA
Medications, PDR
Medline, Comparison
Multivitamins
Mental Health Care General Links
Mental Health Counselor Resources, About.com
Mental Help Net
Psychiatric Hotline (908)668-2599
Social Security/Medicare (800)772-1213
University of Michigan Health Library
Personality Disorders
Mental Help Net - Personality Disorders
Suicide Awareness and Hotlines
SAMHSA's Suicide Prevention
Suicide Awareness Voices of Education
Suicide: Read This First
Additional Mental Health Care & Counseling Resources
Disaster/Trauma
HIV/AIDS
Interpretation of Dreams
Keirsey (Myers-Briggs) Temperament Sorter
Signs of Menopause, Symptoms of Menopause
Note: Not responsible for the content, claims or representations of the listed sites.
I love this app! It is designed by a local church to connect us with our passion to serve in our community. Just serve connects you with local community outreach that needs volunteers. This app provides service coordination which promotes and supports non-profit organizations. Great for individuals, service projects, and youth groups.
Domestic violence:
https://www.whengeorgiasmiled.org/aspire-curriculum/
This site and foundation is run by Robin McGraw. It provides apps for safety and protection as well as a wealth or resources and referrals.
IEP and Learning resources:
I Love this site!!! Information, articles, resources, templates, sample letters, protective rights and laws...you name it, this site is an amazing resource for parents, teachers and administrators to help each navigate and assist their children in getting the assessments they need to set up a program that provides accommodations and modifications needed to provide children with the tools to do well in school.
Stress reduction and relief for panic attacks:
#stress
Good lifestyle habits are crucial in reducing our stress. Some these habits are good nutrition, healthy sleep habits, relaxed walks, affirmative self talk, breathing exercises, and making sure you physically well.
HELP OTHERS; get involved in serving and caring for others. Find a good church and church family to support and be supported by.
SLEEP: A full 7 hours of sleep; no sugar or devices 1 hour prior to sleeping.
DIET: Good nutritional eating habits (reduced or no sugar or caffeine,) stop eating processed foods, triglycerides, etc. Eat foods with tryptophan (as they naturally relax your body..turkey, chicken, basil, tomatoes, warm milk.) Most of us don't get the recommended 8 servings of vegetables, 4 servings of fruit and 4 servings of protein a day.
VITAMINS AND SUPPLEMENTS: It is important to take a good daily vitamin, and needed supplements ( such as Vitamin D3.) A complete physical should show what minerals and vitamins you may need to supplement.
EXERCISE: Moderate exercise, a 30 minute walk 3-4 times a week.
HYDRATION: Good hydration (6-8 glasses of water each day.)
SELF TALK AND PRAYER: Positive self talk...dispute those negative injunctions. I believe in prayer, I am a pastor. I firmly believe that everything isn't under our control. That God is a loving, caring and protective Father who willingly will help us through are difficulties. Faith is a gift, one you can ask for. Asking Him to take on your burdens and helping them through will ease your stress and burden.
COUNSELING: Talk therapy with a counselor to help find the source of your anxiety and to help relieve it. Relaxation techniques and focus on a single word (calm, peace, etc..) Please contact me if you would like to come in for a session on my technique. I can also help you on Face time or Skype.
BREATHING EXERCISES: Breathing exercises (breathe in through your nose, slowly to the count of 7 and breathe out, deeply, to the count of 7...7 x.) Remind yourself that this is only a feeling and it will pass with in a short period of time, probably within 10 minutes. As you breathe you are telling your body that there is nothing to fear, to relax and be calm. When you focus on one word, ie calm, you are only able to think of that one thing. This will help with those what if and panicky thoughts.
NATURAL AND WARMING DISTRACTIONS: Music, animals, nature, writing, drawing, crafts, and other activities are wonderful and healthy distractors.
HAVE A SAFE SUPPORT PERSON WHO YOU CAN REACH OUT AND TALK WITH: If you are feeling badly, have a safe support person who you can speak with. As you practice these steps, you will find that your attacks should eventually diminish.
HELP SOME IN NEED: Service heals us and focuses our attention on someone else. It brings you together with other loving, caring persons.
GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK: Love yourself! Have your expectations for you based on your goals, not others. Relax, enjoy and grow. Surround yourself with others who are positive, solution oriented and loving. Learn how to be assertive and say no. You do not have to please others. Write down your goals and figure out how to achieve them. Live, love, learn and enjoy this life.
HAVE A FULL PHYSICAL AND CONSULT WITH A PROFESSIONAL: If you continue to experience these episodes, please consider seeing me or another qualified counselor and see your physician for a complete physical.
www.justserve.org A service coordinating site which promotes and supports non-profit organizations.
Union County Help and Outreach Numbers:
Adult protective services (908)497-3902
American Association of Retired Persons (866)542-8165`
Consumers Affairs of Union County (908)654-9840
Disabled, office of Union County (908)527-4807
Elizabeth office of aging (908)820-4044
Hispanic Services (908)497-3950
Home Energy Assistance Program (908)351-7727
Homeless Emergency Services/ Domestic Violence (908)355-1500
Medicaid (732)777-6977
Medicare (800)633-4227
NJ Nursing Home Information (safe) (908)497-3950
Elderly Abuse Hotline (877)582-6995
Psychiatric Hotline (908)668-2599
Social Security/Medicare (800)772-1213
Union County Division on Aging: Day Care, Home Care, Education,
Employment, Counseling, Financial Assistance, Housing,
Legal Assistance, Prescription Help. (888)280-8226
#Union County, NJ
Help and Outreach Numbers
Grief Counseling article by Imagine. www.imaginenj.org
Imagine is a non profit grief counseling and education center that helps families and individuals of all ages cope and heal from their losses. They are located in Westfield, N.J. If you can support them or help someone you know who needs support in this area, please have them reach out to imaginenj.org
An article listed by their Director of Clinical Services:
10 Things Grieving Children Want You to Know
#1 – Grieving children want to be told the truth. Tell grieving children the truth with these considerations in mind: The age of the child The maturity level of the child The circumstances surrounding the death Answer questions as honestly as you can
#2 – Grieving children want to be reassured that there will always be someone to take care of them. Grieving children spend a lot of time worrying about another person in their life who might die. To help alleviate this fear, it’s important to reassure them that there will always be someone in their life who will take care of them. Enlist the aid of their parent or caregiver to determine a plan for the children. Let the children know what the plan is.
#3 – Grieving children want you to know that their grief is long lasting. Children will grieve the person who died for the rest of their life. Grieving kids don’t “just get over it”. They will often be bewildered when other people in their life have seemed to move on. Their grief changes over time as they grow and change overtime.
#4 – Children often cope with grief and loss through play. Children grieve through play. Typically, they cannot sustain prolonged grief. Children use play as a way to cope with their grief and to take a break from the grief.
#5 – Grieving children want you to know that they will always miss the person who died. People die, but love doesn’t die. Grieving children will miss the person who died for as long as they live.
#6 – Often, grieving children want to share their story and talk about the person who died. Having an opportunity to tell his or her story is often beneficial to a child’s healing process. Sharing memories about the person who died is also very important. Grieving children don’t want to forget the person who died – they are also worried that others will forget their person.
#7 – Every child grieves differently. Every child has his or her own grief journey and own way of grieving. Some children might be more expressive with their grief. Some children might keep it all in. Siblings grieve differently. Just because children come from the same family doesn’t mean that their grief will be the same. It is important to honor each child’s story, even if it is different than his or her sibling’s story.
#8 – Grieving children often feel guilty. Grieving children will often feel pangs of guilt. Even if the guilt is not justified and has no basis in reality.
#9 – Even though I might be acting out, what I’m really feeling is intense emotions of grief. Grieving children frequently feel sad, angry, confused, or scared. Since they might not know how to express all of these emotions, they often end up acting out instead.
#10 - If you’re not sure what a grieving child wants, just ask him! When in doubt, ask a grieving child how you can help. Check in with the child – do they want to talk about the person who died? Maybe not. Expect myriad answers. Do they want to write about their grief or do some other activity to express their grief? What do they need?
You can help grieving children by:
Listening Really hearing them when you’re listening Following their lead Validating their feelings. Answering their questions. Seeking out additional resources, as needed
Written by: Pamela Gabbay, M.A.
Family Health and Nutrition:
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